They're the black holes that suck all the energy out of you and leave you feeling drained and lifeless.
Maybe you've encountered one of these "energy vampires" before.
You'll notice them because you start feeling defensive and tense.
You might feel the urge to run away.
And when you speak to them, your inner voice says, "oh, no, not again."
Ellie is having trouble with one of these "vampires" and needs help:
"Hi Dr. Kilstein,
My drama queen friend is driving me nuts.
She makes a big deal over every small situation, and comes running to me for advice and help in solving her problems.
I don't mind helping her--well, not until she calls me every 2 hours with an "update" on her problems.
It feels like she is taking over my life, and I know her friendship is not good for me.
How can I get rid of her without hurting her?
Sometimes a person can be perfectly nice while they're busy taking all your positive energy.
It doesn't make them bad people, it just means that you have to be extra careful around them.
I would limit the amount of time you spend with this friend.
Tell her, "I only have a few minutes to talk." This limits your conversation.
You should not feel obligated to listen to her complaints if you have things to do.
Be clear and firm. Tell her you have other obligations and other demands on your time.
Don't feel obligated to solve her problems.
Just because her life is a mess doesn't make you the person to fix it. That's her responsibility.
It's not your job to rescue her.
You also don't have to answer the phone every time she calls.
And if she asks, "Why didn't you pick up?" simply say you were busy.
It's time you regained your personal space back from this vampire.
You need to have the confidence to stand up for yourself.
And sometimes, you just have to walk away.
Once negative people learn that you're an easy target, you can get caught in a vicious cycle.
Your time and energy is valuable--only you should choose who you give them to.
It's not up to you to offer everyone a solution.
Everyone is responsible for their own lives.
So what are you doing with yours?
If you're busy letting people walk all over you, it's time to stop.
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