Harlan Kilstein Personal Change

Harlan Kilstein Asks, Are You Being Sucked by an “Energy Vampire”?

They're the black holes that suck all the energy out of you and leave you feeling drained and lifeless.

Maybe you've encountered one of these "energy vampires" before.

You'll notice them because you start feeling defensive and tense.

You might feel the urge to run away.

And when you speak to them, your inner voice says, "oh, no, not again."

Ellie is having trouble with one of these "vampires" and needs help:

"Hi Dr. Kilstein,

My drama queen friend is driving me nuts.

She makes a big deal over every small situation, and comes running to me for advice and help in solving her problems.

I don't mind helping her--well, not until she calls me every 2 hours with an "update" on her problems.

It feels like she is taking over my life, and I know her friendship is not good for me.

How can I get rid of her without hurting her?

Thanks,

Ellie"

Hi Ellie,

Sometimes a person can be perfectly nice while they're busy taking all your positive energy.

It doesn't make them bad people, it just means that you have to be extra careful around them.

I would limit the amount of time you spend with this friend.

Tell her, "I only have a few minutes to talk." This limits your conversation.

You should not feel obligated to listen to her complaints if you have things to do.

Be clear and firm. Tell her you have other obligations and other demands on your time.

Don't feel obligated to solve her problems.

Just because her life is a mess doesn't make you the person to fix it. That's her responsibility.

It's not your job to rescue her.

You also don't have to answer the phone every time she calls.

And if she asks, "Why didn't you pick up?" simply say you were busy.

It's time you regained your personal space back from this vampire.

You need to have the confidence to stand up for yourself.

And sometimes, you just have to walk away.

Once negative people learn that you're an easy target, you can get caught in a vicious cycle.

Your time and energy is valuable--only you should choose who you give them to.

It's not up to you to offer everyone a solution.

Everyone is responsible for their own lives.

So what are you doing with yours?

If you're busy letting people walk all over you, it's time to stop.

Take charge of your life and start putting yourself in a permanent positive state by clicking here:

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Once you know this easy technique, the energy suckers will never be able to "feed" on you again!

And your positive energy will skyrocket, propelling you to even greater heights.

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Peace.

Harlan Kilstein

Balloon Boy Hoax?

 

Did you hear about "Balloon Boy" the other day?

Turns out the whole thing was a hoax.

The family wanted some reality-TV fame and pulled this stunt with the balloon and the little boy just to get some attention.

So the whole thing turns out the be a publicity stunt, with the boy hiding in the attic while his parents pretended he was stuck in a floating giant balloon.

Now the parents are probably going to be charged with a crime.

What crime should they be charged with?

Stupidity?

Parents using their kids to make them famous is not cool.

Jon and Kate did it--and now no one can decide which one is the bigger jerk.

Same thing with Octo-Mom.

Having 8 babies and then shopping yourself around as a reality show is just ridiculous--and really sad.

It's sad that people think having their own show will make them liked and popular.

And it's even sadder that they manipulate their kids to do it.

Shaming yourself on television is not a good way to become famous.

We've all seen the American Idol auditions where people who can't sing a note to save their life think they are the greatest stars.

All that happens is they end up looking stupid.

And you wonder why they're up there waiting for Simon to yell at them when they could be putting their energies into something they're good at.

They tell themselves that they're living their dreams of becoming famous.

But do you really want to be famous for embarrassing yourself?

The point is, you can have all the dreams you want.

But you've got to think about whether you can really make those dreams happen.

Think about your dreams.

And think about what you need to do to get there.

If you want to own your own business, do you have the knowledge you need to get started?

If you want to move to a new city, do you have the means to make that happen?

Do you want to be in a relationship? Well, how are your social skills?

It helps to be honest with yourself about what your goals really are--and be realistic about what you can accomplish.

But that doesn't mean that all your dreams are impossible.

As a matter of fact, I bet many of them are within your reach

It just means that you've got to be in the right mindset for success.

Fortunately, getting into that mindset is easy and quick.

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Peace.

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Harlan Kilstein

Is Coke Making You Fat?

 

Do you like drinking Coca-Cola?

The Coca-Cola Company wants you to know that it's not their fault for making you fat.

They say that it's your own fault for not exercising more!

The CEO of Coca Cola is protesting against a "fat tax" on sugary drinks and foods.

He says that the average American spends a total of 60 days a year in front of a television.

A full 25% of people are not active at all.

So is it really the sugary soda that's making you fat?

Of course not!

They're not forcing you to drink it, are they?

Every time you pick up a bottle of Coke or a chocolate bar--you made that choice.

All by yourself.

Blaming it on Coke isn't going to do any good.

It's time to start making some changes.

And the first place to start is with your mindset.

Once you take control and set your mindset for success, then changing your habits comes automatically.

But only if you know this shortcut:

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When I discovered this long-lost technique, I used it myself to lose 58 pounds.

Every time I had tried to lose weight before, I failed because I kept falling back into my old habits.

But once I got myself into a state of excellence, I stopped being my own worst enemy.

Healthy eating and exercise started feeling as natural as breathing.

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Peace.

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Harlan Kilstein

The Secret Power Within You

Many years ago, I studied karate with Professor Harvey Sober at Yeshiva University.  Dr. Sober was a legend in karate  for performing what were known as "soft breaks".

 

He would approach a rock or large stone and lay his hand, or sometimes just a finger, and focus his energy on that stone and within seconds, it would explode.

 

Once a year, he would do a live demonstration of these soft breaks and I went to see it live. 

 

The highlight of the demonstration came when Doctor Sober held a large boulder out in front of him and let his head gently come down and rest on the stone.

 

The stone shattered in front of his.

 

It didn't look like he exerted any energy - yet, the evidence was there for all to see.

 

Years later, I discovered that one of the secrets to his success was his breathe.  In the west, we take breathing for granted.  In the east, breathing is an art form.

 

By tapping into breathe, a karate, akido, or qi master has nearly unlimited energy.

 

My teacher Sara shows how you can tap into the same energy to create a life of abundance.

 

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It's been getting great reviews.

 

Peace.

 

Harlan Kilstein

Grandma Kicks Butt

 These two elderly ladies are still kicking some butt:

98-year-old Isadel's home is broken into at 2 A.M. by robbers.

They push her down, and attempt to rob her.

But she fights back, hitting one of them with a wooden stick.

She hit them so hard, the stick broke in half.

Needless to say, the robbers didn't manage to steal anything.

The same thing happened when a bank robber attempted to hold up a Wachovia branch in Allentown.

78-year-old teller Helen Roth starts giving the robber a piece of her mind--and refuses to give him any money.

She tells him to "get out" and he does, running away empty-handed.

These two ladies are perfect examples of the things you can accomplish when you have the right mindset.

How many of us would have run away or given the robbers whatever they wanted?

And how many of us are just as passive about our own lives?

These ladies are still in the driver's seat (well, maybe not literally)...

And they can certainly take care of themselves and get what they want.

When you've got the mindset that people can walk all over you...

Then that's exactly what's going to happen.

But if you've got the strength to stand up for yourself, well...

The universe recognizes that power.

The "Grandma" stories show that it's never too late to take back your life and make some changes.

And using the Physiology of Excellence makes it easy.

All you need is your DVD player and an hour and you can kiss your fears and insecurities goodbye!

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Peace.

Harlan Kilstein

Harlan Kilstein Want to Upgrade Yourself to First Class?

Let me tell you a story:

Lisa was flying to Italy for a vacation.

And the flight attendant comes up to her and says,

"Yes, we have one empty seat in first class, would you like to move up to first class?"

What a dream come true!

Unlimited leg room!

Free cocktails and gourmet meals!

Of course, Lisa took the upgrade.

But as she's sitting in first class, surrounded by comforts and luxuries, she thinks to herself,

"You know, the only problem with this vacation? I have to take myself along."

This story is a perfect example of what happens when you let your negative thoughts run your brain.

Lisa's self-esteem was so low that she couldn't bear to spend time with herself.

And she certainly didn't feel deserving of the first class treatment she got.

That's because the universe will show you only as much love as you show yourself.

So the quickest way to improve your situation is to show yourself some love.

Here are things you can do today to upgrade yourself to first class:

Give yourself the simple pleasures of life.

Take a bath every day.

Get a massage.

Speak only good things about yourself--don't put yourself down--under any circumstances.

Find something good about everyone you know and everyone you meet.

Make time for yourself to think and reflect by taking a long walk.

Write down your thoughts in a journal.

All of these things will help you change your mindset.

When you think positive thoughts about yourself, you attract positive things into your life.

Another easy way to change your mindset is by using the Physiology of Excellence technique.

It's a simple way to improve your self-confidence, eliminate your fears, and give yourself that "first-class upgrade" you truly deserve.

Just give me a few minutes of your time and allow me to show you how your life can change forever using this one simple technique:

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Peace.

Harlan Kilstein

3 Easy Steps to Confidence: Final

We've already discussed the first two steps to your amazing new confidence:

Action is the first step.

Belief is the second.

And now for the ultimate level of confidence:

Identity.

Being a truly confident person means not stopping to think about whether you are confident or not.
It's just your state of being.

And this pinnacle of confidence means that you can approach any new situation, tackle any challenge easily and fearlessly.

Not only do you act confident.

Not only do you believe you are confident...

But confidence becomes a part of who you are, flowing from you completely naturally.

You may not even be able to explain how you do it anymore--that's how easy and natural it will be.

Think for a minute about the most confident person you know.

If you were to ask them, "How did you get to be so confident?" chances are they won't have an answer.

"It's just how I am," they'll say.

And while some people are lucky enough to keep that natural state of confidence they were born with...

Most of us have to struggle with shyness and low self-confidence.

And if you're reading this and thinking,

"How can I ever achieve that kind of confidence?"

"I would have to work for the rest of my life to change!"

"It's practically impossible, it's too hard!"

Well, I'm here to tell you that it's not as hard as you think.

And it's certainly not impossible.

Your brain is making up excuses to prevent you from living your true potential.

But don't let your fears stop you from living the life you want.

Imagine being able to fulfill your dreams without fear or worry.

Imagine being in a state of mind so positive, and so confident, that NOTHING anyone says can ruin your great day!

And imagine that this is your new life--every single day.

What would that mean to you?

But it's not just a pipe dream.

There really are people who go from shy wallflower to confident powerhouse...
And you can be one of them.

Using the Physiology of Excellence technique enables you to attain that desired unstoppable level of confidence--

Without slogging through the hard work and setbacks of the other two stages.

Let's face it--trying to change can be extremely difficult.

Especially if you don't have a guide to help you through the journey.

Let the Physiology of Excellence guide you through this painless and easy technique.

Once you know how it works, you'll be able to instantly put yourself in a state of confident success.

When you discover this powerful secret, you can automatically switch from shy to confident as fast as Clark Kent transforms into Superman.

What could be better than knowing you have instant confidence at your fingertips--whenever you need it?

Find out more about this incredible technique--and take it for a test drive--by clicking here:

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Peace.

Harlan Kilstein

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3 Easy Steps to Confidence (Step 2)

Last time we discussed the first step to confidence: action.

Once you know how to act confident, once you know how to "fake it" that's when you begin to "make it."

You begin to believe in your confidence, instead of simply going through the motions. Our beliefs are extremely powerful.

When I say beliefs, I'm not just talking about faith or politics.

I'm talking about just about everything--including what you believe about yourself.

And the second stage of confidence means kicking those old negative beliefs to the curb.

The fact is, if you believe you can't change, that you're stuck with your shyness and fear--

Then that's what you'll be--stuck.

But if you believe that you can really fulfill your dreams--then there's nothing to stand in your way.

So once you reach the belief step, you feel confident enough to say, "I am confident."

There might still be certain situations that make you nervous or unsure.

When you face these first-time situations, if you think the following things to yourself, you'll be more likely to succeed:

The first time is going to be the hardest.

It will get better after this.If I don't succeed, I will learn from my mistakes.

If I do succeed, I'll use my success to do even better next time.

Reminding yourself that each new experience is a chance to learn and grow--and not a judgment of you as a person--takes the pressure off.

Confident people don't run from failure.

Their sense of self doesn't collapse when they don't succeed.

And they certainly don't beat themselves up over it.

Instead, they study what went wrong and resolve to do better.

The more you're able to do this, the more solid your confident beliefs will become.

And when you can face a new situation and feel 100% confident and unstoppable--that's when you know you've made it.

Normally this process can take a long time, with lots of bumps along the way.

But I'm offering you a shortcut.

When I stumbled across this technique, I saw the amazing potential it had to transform lives.

The Physiology of Excellence works on the principle that you can change your inner state by changing your behavior.

"Fake it till you make it," right?

Except you can see change happen in minutes, not months.

What's the secret?

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Peace.

Harlan Kilstein

3 Easy Steps to Confidence (Step 1)

Do you consider yourself a confident person or a shy person?

Are you confident in certain situations but not others?

Would you like to be confident all the time?

How would your life change if you had t

hat kind of confidence? While you imagine the possibilities, let me show you an easy way to get there. There are three levels of confidence, each stronger and more powerful than the next.

In order to achieve the ultimate confidence, you have to go through these steps.

And the first step is action. Even though you may not feel very confident at all, by acting like a confident person, you begin to step outside your comfort zone.

Just take a minute and think about something you've done a million times before--no matter how small it is.

Let's take something fairly common, like riding a bike or knitting.

Once you know how, do you think twice before picking up your knitting needles or getting on a bike? Of course not.

But you can probably remember how nervous and frustrated you were the first few times you tried.

We gain confidence from action. You might think it's the opposite--that only if you're confident can you jump into a new situation with ease. But just try it and see.

When faced with a new situation, you can simply choose to behave with confidence instead of fear.

There are a few ways to "fake it until you make it."

First is to find someone whose grace, confidence, or skill you admire. It could be a favorite actor, politician, or athlete--as long as you think they are confident.

This person will be your "confidence model." Pay attention to how they walk, talk, and move. Notice the little details: hand motions, how they phrase their sentences, how they hold their body, how they walk, etc. No detail is too small, because you want to imitate them.

Act the way they act--if you can copy them, then you know you are projecting a confident image to the world.

Another way to "fake it" is to notice how you speak. When you use words like "try" "hope" or "maybe," you're showing your lack of confidence in your decisions and your actions.

Change sentences like "I'll try to go shopping tomorrow" to "I will go shopping tomorrow."

Changing your language helps you assert yourself and project confidence that you may not feel--yet.

But as you begin to act and speak with confidence, you'll begin to notice that it comes easier. This is the first stage in a process of gaining confidence.

But there is a way to fast forward the process, using the Physiology of Excellence.

This amazing technique combines all 3 stages, letting you make a quick, permanent change without all the hard work.

That's because the Physiology of Excellence works on the unconscious level of your mind--letting you change your deepest fears and behavior automatically.

Try the Physiology of Excellence risk-free and you can see changes happen overnight.

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And stay tuned for Step 2 to easy confidence.

Harlan Kilstein Ed.D.

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